As one of the co-authors of the men’s mental health manual Beat Stress, Feel Better and the survivor of paranoid schizophrenia, PTSD, autism and alcoholism, among many other dodgy diagnoses, I’m well placed to write this letter to a former friend who will probably never read it. If you’re fucked up by the past, present, or immediate future, perhaps you are the friend I am writing to? Read on to find out what I’m getting at.
Yo, Mo’ F. Uck!
So you’re in a Mombasa brothel for the 18th month running. That helping? 5,000 miles away from your daughters, who worship you despite the hellish fear they felt when you snapped on booze. 8,000 from your blood family, whom you’ve steadily alienated by running away from yourself.
I know about the fires you started when blind drunk. How you alienated the mentor who saved your career. Scared the Heavens out of your doting wife, who stuck by you after your industrial accident through a life of penury as you recovered your health and went to sea again.
You call me a ‘faggit’ and use other language suggesting I am not a straight man. You suggest I might not even have the balls you have. At least I don’t hide in a brothel taking risks with AIDS, pregnancy and all the things that come with alcohol and drug abuse. I don’t hide from the one person who will live with me for the rest of my life – me.
Who has the bigger ‘balls’? The man who accepted he’d screwed up when the mother of his child ran due to his own alcoholism and PTSD and cleaned up? Or the one who flew 8,000 miles to live like a king among ladies of the night to try to hide from himself after his wife took your daughters and ran after your own episode?
Apparently ‘faggits’ are the ones who look inward and try to get well. Let’s get to the title of this email: If doctors had a shred of evidence that getting blasted on alcohol fixed PTSD, the NHS would have asylums where you could drink all you could stomach (and after chundering) all the more. We’d be getting drunk at taxpayer’s expense for weeks on end! Sadly, that’s not the case.
As can be seen in your case, Mo’ F. Uck, alcohol does quite the reverse. It makes people violent, especially when blacked out after an onset of PTSD. Like I said, I know of at least two fires you’ve started inside people’s homes. Thousands of men and women, traumatised for whatever reason, end up in jail in the US and UK every night after acting out because their trauma is screaming in their faces when they are out of it. You’ve seen the inside of at least one police cell and talked to at least one judge since you had that incident in Syria that you can’t live with.
A man of honour and integrity stands and fights. Not the innocents around him who watch him fall and try to help, but the real causes of his problems. I know what you went through. Around the same time, I had a prolonged traumatic event – a fight with the forces of darkness where I swore I’d die if I lost. Like you, and with you, I tried hiding in the bottle. The bottle is the armpit of medicine – it doesn’t work. It lies to you to get you hooked and then smashes your life to a pulp. It took me a full three years and a bout of COVID to beat that.
So what works? Faggits like me ask for help. Listen to those who hold out their hand in friendship. Do whatever they can to beat the enemy within. Yes, the man with real balls isn’t afraid to cry for help. To lose friends by the hundred as they strive to better themselves. To find the path to personal peace within.
If you’re reading this for real, Mo’ F. Uck, you’ll probably want to fly over to cave my head in. Why? Because you’re the sort of man, hung like a mouse, who uses violence to fix those who tell them the truth. You’re certainly no faggit who gets the help they need.
So yes, Faggits has the right idea. ‘Real men’ who run and hide haven’t. Perhaps, Mo’ F. Uck, it’s time you started batting for the other side?
Yours Aye
Rich
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